The love and marriage myths Indian divorcees want you to stop believing
Indian divorcees say not really, and they probably learnt it the hard way. Most people have an idea of marriage for themselves. A dreamy wedding, a sunset varmala, unique wedding favours, matching ensembles and more.
Indian divorcees say not really, and they probably learnt it the hard way. Most people have an idea of marriage for themselves.
A dreamy wedding, a sunset varmala, unique wedding favours, matching ensembles and more. And amidst all of this, nobody thinks about "agar shaadi toot gayi toh?" If anything, one envisions what their happily-ever-after will look like.
What Happened
According to a survey by matchmaking app Rebounce, many respondents said that their experiences had made them rethink some of the most familiar ideas around love and marriage. And it in no way means maligning the idea of love.
About 39 per cent of participants opined that decisions made in the name of love can eventually build resentment, especially for the one who makes the most compromises.
They believe in asking the right questions and having uncomfortable discussions that can strengthen relationships.
They are simply saying that, after experiencing marriage the hard way, they have learnt to look beyond the butterflies.
Key Details
Most of our users said that they entered their first marriage expecting love to do all the heavy lifting. Abhilash, a 34-year-old divorcee from Indore who participated in the survey, shared how he stopped asking his ex-questions about herself and everything became.
The divorcees surveyed aren't saying love is a bad idea.
Just because you do or ask someone to do everything because of love, constant compromises can inevitably lead to sacrifices, resentment and silent scorekeeping.
Love is not necessarily evidence of a successful relationship and, to strike a balance, compromises have to be made on both ends equally.
Why It Matters
Divorced singles have second thoughts about the romantic cliche - love can suffice for anything and everything.
I kept relying on the outdated version of her, when she was changing, as is natural.
What Reports Say
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Continued reporting by India Today as more details emerge
