The Gentleman
Its a fact that woman always pick bad boys to date but end up marrying good guys. It’s the gentleman who they choose to settle down with. But when one actually take a quick glance to notice around us, there are very few true gentlemen remaining among us. As the saying goes, good ones have been taken and the balance leave behind.
In times past, the gentleman was much appreciated and being gentlemanly was a noble thing. The meaning of the gentleman has gone through a significant evolution from the 19th century from great political and social changes.
In today’s society, the gentleman can be measures from below categories:
- Etiquette
- Social Skills
- Courtesy
- Style
- Chivalry (Guys these days are definitely lack of this!)
One thing that particularly irks me is the lack of courtesy and chivalry most guys are guilty of at the turn of this new millennium. From my observation from dating modern guys these days, if the date is set at 7pm, the guy will either be late to pick you up 10 min or more than that. They will be there 10 min after, and not 10 min before. Some on the worse hand, has this strange habit of kiss and tell. At one point I was beginning to doubt myself what guys in this century has turn into. I do meet guys who gossips and spread rumours better than girls.
Chivalry may be old fashion but in the presence of a lady, the gentleman should always know how to treat her right. Some basic guidelines are having her sit at the dinner table before you, waiting for her food to come before starting to eat yours (Yes, I know you are hungry…but can’t you just wait a little while?!), open the door for the girl and attending to her request before yours. All these are not too much to ask but perhaps due to the modern generation where girls these days are independent, guys seems to forget all these basic etiquette after all. They simply do not know how to differentiate between equal treatment and respecting the girls.
For example, girls today may earn themselves. To the guys, these are equal as girls may earn as much as the guys. So they will particulary think that it is equal for the girls and they do not need behave and attend to the girls need. Hence with this all the aspects of being the gentleman has been forgotten. I can bet you olden guys know how to respect girls more than today’s guys.
I come across a guy friend who swears 24 x 7. Out of 10 sentence he makes, there will 9 sentences made out of the four-letter words. Simple terms like “thank you” and “please” are out of the way. He likes to nail-bitting and also nose-picking in the public.
Wife beater, rude man, stalkers are also not in the list for a gentleman. When you beat your wife, it always implies that you can’t reason with her and rely on “brute force” to get your point across. Ogling someone is the equivalent of psychological aggression. You don’t want to intimidate people for fun or another word being a big bully.
I had a collegue at work who likes to laugh at people’s mistake. He laughed at mine too. This is perhaps one of the cruelest things one can do. When you mess up, the last thing you want is for someone not only to bring it to your attention, but to ridicule you on top of that but unfortunately this guy doesn’t know what he is doing. He just feel fun and perhaps he thinks he is smarter than anyone else. I have known him for 4 years and as he has been single during those years…I can simply understand why..he is totally lack of the gentleman word.
So all these basic guidelines to be the gentleman are easy and you do not need to attend Oxford University for that.
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